If you had the opportunity to talk to your past self, might not seem like a good thing. All of us are immature at every point in life if you consider the subsequent points. For example, I am more mature now, than when I was in school. I will be more mature tomorrow, as compared to today. Every day we learn new things, and along with it, gain perspective. This perspective gives us a better outlook into life and thus help us become a mature person. So if you get to read your diary from years ago, or scroll down the Facebook timeline it might prove very dangerous for your self-esteem. You are going to cringe at your immature self.
A good equivalent would be rewatching the past seasons of your favourite series. You might want to jump in and ask them not to take certain actions – even though you know very well they won’t be able to follow your instructions. Or you might want to tell them not to worry about the events that occur to them. In fact, that particular set of problems might be the foundation of a story arc that makes them a better person.
Wouldn’t that apply to us as well? Should we also not realise that our problems are but passing clouds? If you’d want fictional characters to be more relaxed because what happens to them is going to make them better, shouldn’t that be the very advice we need to tell our past selves? And by extension, if we start believing in it today, wouldn’t that be an acknowledgement of what our future self tries to tell its past, ie, our present?
Whatever advice you want to tell your past is probably the same advice that your future self is trying to tell you: it’s not worth worrying over.
I remember that when I looked at my diary, I cringed at myself when I saw that I had an entry where I lamented a whole day over the fact that a girl hadn’t answered my question on why she was absent. Today, given that I don’t even remember it, I think I’ve come to the point where I no longer care about her lack of a response. Guess it might have been too personal a question.
While this dealt with the past, recently, I came across the concept of time capsules. The concept of writing a letter to future me sounded enthralling. While on the other hand, having seen how I have felt about the things that my younger self worried, I think I’m doing the future me a favour by not setting up a time capsule from the present day.
And about the present day, I’ve started to realise a few things. Apart from the fact that it’s going to be a year since I started blogging, it’s also the fact that I need to live in the present. It is up to us to know and accept that the actions of the present are influenced by experiences and possible consequences. Acknowledge the past and future, but live in the present.
The memories of the past are done. In the present, we have control over any memories that we are going to make. Memories are like your babies – you have to live with them throughout your life. Let them be happy and proud – while this is meant for your memories, I realise it applies to babies too.